The Blessing of Meeting on Higher Ground | Thoughts on Friendship

We sat around the table sharing some of the deepest places of our hearts. Laughter, tears, and everything in between the two.

Because it was safe.

The Blessing of Meeting on Higher Ground #MomentsofHope | thoughts on friendship

We were eight women gathered from the British Virgin Islands to Kentucky to Washington. Crossing all barriers of distance and culture with hearts already knitted together. Two years ago we came together in support of one another in our writing ministries. We had yet to all meet each other in person, but day-by-day we built lasting online friendships. We had all come to a place of recognizing our need for encouragement and an escape from competition and judgement.

Together we’d experienced the power in friendships based on the cornerstone of Christ’s call for us to love well. We experienced the power in lifting up and encouraging one another.

Often people (especially women) let the enemy deceive them into believing the lie that we must compare and compete.

But it simply isn’t true.

Two people are better than one because together they have a good reward for their hard work. If one falls, the other can help his friend get up. But how tragic it is for the one who is all alone when he falls. There is no one to help him get up. Again, if two people lie down together, they can keep warm, but how can one person keep warm? Though one person may be overpowered by another, two people can resist one opponent. A triple-braided rope is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12(GW)

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It’s something we want to pass onto you. A challenge to love one another well and not let competition nor comparison rise up among us. Friendship is truly a gift. A gift with unlimited potential. Together, we can lay our brokenness down. Our bitterness, anger, jealousy, fear, and insecurities. We can lay them before Christ allowing Him to trade those ashes in for beauty.

And we can have friendships that go beyond the surface. Friendships that break barriers and allow healing, wholeness, and joy. 

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This weekend we began dreaming of more. A place for more women to experience this kind of friendship. As writers, bloggers, and digital evangelists we have an opportunity to pass that baton onto many. Yet first we need that kind of community for ourselves in our ministry. So, we are dreaming of 2018 and a #HigherGroundConference. Would you join us in praying? And if you are a Christian blogger, writer, or digital evangelist of some kind, stay tuned for more details to come!

The Blessing of Meeting on Higher Ground #MomentsofHope | thoughts on friendship

I don’t want you to simply take my word for it, though. I want you to hear the words of these precious ladies! Words straight from their hearts! Some of you may know these gals, but if not, take a few moments to visit them and soak in their unique voices of encouragement and hope.

Thoughts on Friendship

Here I was meeting a group of women, for the first time in person, but they weren’t strangers to me at all.  We were already close because we had been supporting each other, praying for each other, and sharing our lives together through an online Facebook group.  There were a few of things that united us: first of all, we all love Jesus, also, we all love to write and to share our love for Jesus through our online ministries.  Other than that, we vary widely in our ages, backgrounds, and personalities.  The gift of our common bond overwhelms me with gratitude.  The community of Christ is a beautiful thing.   Dawn Klinge | Above the Waves


Valerie MurrayI was overjoyed to be able to meet my friends whom I have gotten to know over the past 2 years in our Facebook group. I love how we pray for each other and support one another. It was such a blessing to see how the Lord pieced our group together like a puzzle. Each person is a uniquely gifted woman of God. Together in community, the puzzle fits and represents how the Holy Spirit can work in our lives in powerful way.  Valerie Murray | Cord of 6


I am in awe of how God has used this beautiful group of women to minister to my heart. When I felt the nudge to begin a Facebook group 2 years ago, I prayed and asked God to show me who I should invite. Wow, He more than delivered! We are each unique with different gifts yet as we shared our stories we quickly realized how God uses our broken places to draw us close to Him and to each other . . . lifting  us to Higher Ground. I am so very thankful for these amazing friends who pour the love of Jesus into my life.  Deb Wolf | Counting My Blessings


What an amazing experience to spend the weekend with other Christian bloggers! It was a joy to join with other women from different parts of the world to pray, laugh, brainstorm, and share. There is something so powerful that happens when women cheer each other on, support each other, and lift each other up! May we seek to become women who complete each other rather than compete with each other. – Melanie Redd |Melanie Redd


Hope for the One Who Feels Unworthy After a Painful Divorce - Carmen Brown for Lori Schumaker #ChosenandWorthy (a series on identity)When I was invited to spend the weekend with where to buy nolvadex in the us this amazing group of woment,  I wondered what I could give and how I could even fit. I walked in timid and with some doubt about myself. But as we gathered together, a spirit of peace and joy overtook the atmosphere. Each woman embraced the other with love making me feel in perfect unity with them.  I have been blessed to worship and pray with these anointed women of God. Their grace, humbleness, and words of encouragement have refreshed my vision as a Christian Blogger. I now know I am not alone in blogging but that we are united together as we minister for God.   Carmen Brown | Married By His Grace


Grace. I cannot stop thinking about the beauty of it. These women have demonstrated grace to me in new ways — life-changing, heart-touching ways. We sat around laughing and crying, cheering one another on to continue ministering even in the painful, tired, dry seasons. And in the midst of the laughter and the tears, there was no competition and no division. Age didn’t matter. Background didn’t matter. Status didn’t matter. Grace is what mattered. This is raw, safe friendship – journeying to Higher Ground with women of grace both behind and before you. And what a beautiful thing it is.  Alison Tiemeyer |Alison Tiemeyer


sunSPARKLEshineI am amazed by the blessings God poured out on us this past weekend. What started as a way to support and encourage each other online became a sweet gift beyond what any of us could ever imagine. We spent the time together crying, praying, singing and laughing, without fear and without judgment. As we treasured the time together God used each woman’s unique gifts to minister and encourage. What a great reminder of how much we need to be in community with Godly women. It was just what I needed and I’m extremely grateful for the blessings that follow when we choose to meet God on Higher Ground. Marva Smith | SunSparkleShine


Want to know more about the weekend and the plans for our conference? Check out these posts:

The Awesome Blessing of Praying with Friends

How to Be a Safe Space for Your Friends 

The Unexpected Journey to Healing, Hope, and Friendship

Why Being with Other Christians Strengthens Your Faith

6 Characteristics of Quality Friendships

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Making friendships like the ones I’ve described above doesn’t just happen because we want it to. It happens because we form them on the foundation of Christ where we love as He tells us to do. And that, my friends, takes sacrifice.

My friend Jen Avellaneda, writing over at Missional Women, wrote, “Loving people isn’t always easy or convenient, especially when there can be jetlag, dead lines, and behavior issues, but doesn’t all great things always often cost us something?

?Let’s pop the bubble of safe Christianity; seeing, feeling, touching, sacrificing, spending, and investing in other people, because that when healing comes…” 

Friends, this lady knows about sacrifice and she knows about healing. Join her as she inspires you like she did me to push beyond the bubble of safe Christianity!

Popping the Bubble of Safe Christianity - Missional Women

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  1. I like women who help each other instead of putting each other down. I think that’s where you see who’s on the high way and who takes the gutter.

    Love this post, Lori!

  2. Lori, this is such a beautiful testimony of what the Lord is able to do when the component of competition is removed from our relationships. Loved reading this!

  3. Thank you, Lori, for these words calling us to a place of unity — and for your weekly gathering here that puts action to your words.

  4. Happy Monday Lori…

    This post struck a nerve in me because unfortunately, women feel the need to compete and compare with me. I despise the spirit of comparison and competition. It’s so divisive and nothing good comes from it.

    My constant prayer is that God would put women in my life who want to collaborate and celebrate instead of compete and compare. Thank you for being one of those women.

  5. Thank you for hosting! It is so wonderful for you to be able to gather together as friends!

  6. May the Lord help us all to plant our feet on this higher ground. Love seeing all the “Called Sisters In Christ” coming together and standing together . We are not called to compete against each other but comfort ,uplift ,stay on the “higher ground”

    Wish I could meet you some day ,Lori ! Blessed post to read indeed.

    Diana – (

  7. I love that you all support one another in the writing journey and that you had this time together. Praying God’s guidance for you Lori as you pray about a future conference.

  8. Oh, this made me teary-eyed. How beautiful…I can’t wait to hear more about the Conference!

  9. So much joy and peace reside when we take that competition and comparison out of the equation. Thanks for this great example of that. Thanks for hosting as well!

  10. “digital evangelists” – love that concept, Lori. I’m glad you found such a wonderful community of like-minded friends. Thanks for sharing their voices here as well.

  11. Even if people want to compete with me I don’t have to compete with them. It takes two to tango. I too have been blessed by the women God has placed in my life and doubly blessed by those who are bringing their gifts to enlarge the kingdom.
    This was a beautiful post and a pleasure to meet the ladies.

  12. It makes me think of Matthew 18:20. “For where two or three are gathered as my followers, I am there among them.”
    Thanks for hosting!

  13. I am SO excited for you ladies! What a lovely testimony…there is never need to be competitive. We all win when we share our story

  14. Nicole Kauffman says:

    Such an amazing blessing to be able to find women to truly share our hearts with! I look forward to hearing more about Higher Ground 2018! I have loved getting to know other Christian bloggers and would love to dive more into the deeper relationships you talk about here. I love your striving to cultivate relationships that go beyond the surface…SO important! 🙂

  15. How I love this! I’m so glad all you beautiful ladies could get together for a weekend! I look forward to more details about the retreat. ?

  16. This would be a tremendous blessing; I know that we need to go to the higher ground together as Christian women. Too often I’ve been stuck in the sin of comparison and jealousy which is so wrong, and the Lord has so mercifully brought me to repentance over and over. We need to be in unity together; and that always always makes the body of Christ so much stronger. Thank you ladies for sharing your hearts.