When People Hurt You: Walking Through Rejection and Betrayal
What do you do when people hurt you? How do you pick up your heart, keep moving forward, and allow the pain to make you a stronger, better person?
As I walked away from my friend, I felt that familiar ache in my heart. Another time … another relationship … another situation that hurt.
Rejection. Betrayal.
I knew in my mind that we live in a broken world and immunity from that brokenness isn’t part of any life deals. But that truth didn’t stop the hurt, or the waves of self-doubt, distrust, and lies that washed over me.
When People Hurt You
I wish I could protect you from the hurt of rejection and betrayal. But I can’t. What I can tell you, though, is that there is a way through it where landing on the other side, feet planted and hands raised in victory is possible.
There is a way through rejection and betrayal that doesn’t destroy us. A way that keeps our hearts beating with passion and future relationships flourishing in love. A way that propels us into our purpose … our calling … our dreams.
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Once upon a time, I was a young woman who allowed the enemy to use rejection and betrayal to keep me stuck. I was stuck in shame because of both the hurt inflicted on me by others and the hurt I brought on myself. Not knowing Truth like I do today, I believed too many lies allowing the enemy open access to deep places in my heart.
Then there was Jesus.
He changed everything. Today it’s the reason I write here and speak to women. It’s the passion behind this ministry. Jesus loves us deeply – beyond anything we could ever imagine. He calls us His – wonderful, chosen, beloved.
He cancels out the brokenness of the world and gives us a way through the pain.
Remember who created you, O Jacob? Who shaped you, O Israel? See, you have nothing to fear. I, who made you, will take you back. I have chosen you, named you as My own. When you face stormy seas I will be there with you with endurance and calm; you will not be engulfed in raging rivers. If it seems like you’re walking through fire with flames licking at your limbs, keep going; you won’t be burned. Because I, the Eternal One, am your God. I am the Holy One of Israel, and I will save you. I have traded in nations to win you back, Egypt, Cush, and Seba, in exchange for your freedom. Because you are special to Me and I love you, I gladly give up other peoples in exchange for you; They are trivial by comparison to your weighty significance.
Isaiah 43:1-4 (VOICE)
Join Me for a Series Exploring How You Move Forward After People Hurt You!
When People Hurt You: Rising Above the Emotional Pain of Rejection and Betrayal is a series that will look into the Word of God as a guide to not just surviving but rising victoriously over hurt. I will address a new aspect of rejection and betrayal in each post that will equip you to overcome the hurt and pain you experience from rejection and betrayal of all kinds. Often, it is the very thoughts and behaviors that only serve to keep us stuck in the pain rather than moving forward that become the ones we adopt. But awareness and a commitment to adopting healthy thought and life patterns is key.
To help you effectively apply the content in these posts, I’ve created a Scripture Based Journal and Growth Guide that corresponds to each of the informative posts. It will equip you to go deeper and make each lesson more meaningful.
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Want to Read all the Posts In the “When People Hurt You” Series?
- 7 Powerful Truths You Need to Help You Overcome Betrayal and Rejection
- How Do You Get Over Betrayal, Rejection, and Toxic Guilt?
- Victim or Victor? What to Choose When Someone Hurts You
- Life Isn’t Fair: Help for When You Need to Overcome the Hurt
- Do I Really Need to Forgive Instead of Get Revenge?
- Finding Inner Strength from the Pain of Yesterday
- Getting Unstuck: Letting Go of the Past and Choosing to Live Again
- Finding Jesus in the Broken Church
What a neat photo you chose for this important series, Lori! Sharing this on Twitter and Pinterest. Can’t wait to read more!
Oh Lori what a lovely surprise, thank you for featuring me! What a humble privilege!
Rejection & Betrayal is something Jesus definitely understands…I’m thankful He does!
Jennifer
I loved your post, Jennifer! Thank you so much for joining me here each week! I appreciate you!
Thanks, Sarah! I loved it when I saw it. It just seemed to scream some victorious rising above the hard stuff in life! Thanks so much for sharing!
Happy Thursday, Lori! Thanks for hosting. Can’t wait to party with my moments of hope sisters. Have a blessed day!
Thanks for joining the party, Tiffiney! It most definitely wouldn’t be a party without you!♥ Sending you love!
I love the phrase “cancels out.” It appeals to my homeschooling math teacher heart, and the God who invented fractions and numbers is so amazing that He also has made provision for the healing of our hearts.
I heard that phrase a few years ago and it has stuck with me as well! Once upon a time I was a math buff as well, so maybe that is why it resonated deeply with me! 🙂 Thanks so much for joining me here each week, Michele! You are such a blessing!
This is such an important topic to cover! I have gone through the deep pain of a close friend hurting me. It was one of the hardest seasons of my life, as I lived with her during this time, which made it even harder. I’ve never felt so betrayed and so manipulated. But I wouldn’t change that because I’ve learned the beauty of forgiveness and how I must place my identity in Christ before all else.
Oh, Emily! My heart hurts for you! I’ve been there in that kind of betrayal and, ugh, it hurts. I am so thankful for your faith and for Jesus reaching into that hurt to redeem it. Today you share a message of hope through your writing and I’m sure God has used that little part of your life story in your message! Thanks so much for joining me here, friend, and for sharing your heart authentically ♥
Looking forward to this series. Even as a Christian we can get hung up when we are rejected. Thank you for your wisdom.
Thanks, Maree! Most definitely! You’d think we’d know better, yet we are all on a different journey with Jesus and part of that journey is fully grasping His all encompassing love!
This sounds like a wonderful truth filled topic we can all benefit from. We don’t want to be hurt. We don’t want others to hurt our children. And yet it happens. How will we respond? How will we teach our children to respond? Anxious for next week.
Thanks so much, Theresa! How we respond is so important to our own health, our relationships, and as you pointed out – to our children! Thank you for joining me here in sharing hope each week ♥
Thank you so much, Lori! You totally made my day! AND everyone I know needs this series … I know I do! Love you!!
Love you back, Deb! There’s no way around getting hurt, is there …? I pray this series will bring strategies and HOPE!
Thank you Lori! I was not expecting this but so glad that this post ministered to you others.
Thanks for all you do. Grabbing my button!
It was such a great post, Nylse! Thank you for joining me in sharing hope each week! ♥
Thanks for hosting!
Thank you, Sherry!
My last blog post was about fighting for community in what has become very difficult waters (adult friendships), so you are speaking my language. Thank you for your thoughts. laurensparks.net
Hi Lauren,
I can’t wait to stop by your blog to read more. Friendships are difficult. Painful, yet so very rewarding. Have a blessed week!
Thanks so much, Mel!
An encouraging reminder…turn over our hurts to Christ, remembering who he is rather than believe engage in self defeat. Thank you for sharing!
Amen! Thank you, Sunshyne. I am always so happy to see you here ♥