When Someone Hurts You
Now is a good time to pull out your Journal & Growth Guide and reference #2 of the 7 Truths That Will Enable You to Get Over Betrayal and Rejection. Find that post HERE.
***Before I dig into this topic of choosing how to respond when someone hurts you, I want to say thank you. Last week I went MIA on my weekly post because my father suffered a stroke. As I shared the information on Facebook and Instagram and all the words of prayer and love streamed through, we were so thankful. Dad is doing well and scheduled to leave the rehabilitation facility today so please keep praying for not only full healing, but for the decisions and transitions he and my sweet mom are facing. Thank you so very very much!
If you’ve been here for even a brief moment, you know that the heart of my message is that the closer we are to the heart of God, the more we know who we are. And the more we know who we are, the more we live lives pursuing the very purpose for which God has placed us here on this Earth. We live lives of joy, peace, and hope. And we live lives that point to Jesus as that hope.
Likewise, if you’ve been here for that moment, you also know my personal story of identity is less than stellar. I was clueless. A young and impressionable girl grabbing her identity from the world around her, rather than the God within her.
I didn’t know who I was, or Whose I was. I walked into brokenness by wearing the labels of the world on my soul.
But lies permeate the labels of the world. Maybe there is a tiny thread of truth mixed in with the world that bears the brokenness of our people and systems. But not much.
When we deal with the world, we deal with brokenness. And when we deal with brokenness, we deal with both rejection and betrayal. The enemy of our souls rejoices in it and works heartily at ensuring we clothe ourselves in the sin of our offenders.
Why? Because he wants us to identify as a victim.
The truth is, as a victim we will not fulfill our purpose. And as a victim, we will not see victory.
Therefore, we must know Truth. We must know Jesus and know that any rejection or betrayal we encounter will never become our identity.
Because our identity is unchangeable. As a believer, you are a child of God. Chosen, worthy, created in His image, with purpose, and called wonderful!
However, I get it. I get the hurt and the lies whispered by the enemy … I hear them, too. Ones like:
You are not worthy of respect.
You are a fool.
You’ll never accomplish your dream.
But lean in friends and listen to this truth.
People do not betray or reject based upon the worth of those they hurt. They choose to do so because of a brokenness deep inside themselves.[bctt tweet=”People do not betray or reject based upon the worth of those they hurt. They choose to do so because of a brokenness deep inside themselves. #series #betrayal #rejection #MomentsofHope #identity” username=”lori_schumaker”]
Let’s look at Judas Iscariot’s story of betrayal. He is the guy from Jesus’ inner circle who betrayed Jesus with a kiss.
Jesus lived a blameless life – one free of sin. He is the Lamb of God. Our Savior. The God of the Universe. Yet, He was betrayed. His betrayal could not be based upon His worth, right? The betrayal was birthed out of a broken place – an unredeemed sin – within Judas.
Jesus answered, “It is the one to whom I will give this piece of bread when I have dipped it in the dish.” Then, dipping the piece of bread, he gave it to Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot. As soon as Judas took the bread, Satan entered into him. -John 13:26-27
Now let’s look at how Jesus handled the betrayal. Friends, He didn’t slip into victim mode. Although tortured and ridiculed in those proceeding hours, Jesus chose victory. A victory for all time. He conquered death and in so doing, He claimed victory for us, as well.
So, friends, when someone hurts you and the painful effects of sin find their way into your life, as a child of God, your life story is not that of a victim.[bctt tweet=”Even though the painful effects of sin will find its way into your life, as a child of God, your life story is not that of a victim. #betrayal #rejection #victory #series #growthguide #MomentsofHope” username=”lori_schumaker”]
You see, believing in Jesus doesn’t merely gain us a ticket into Heaven. It’s about the victory we have here on earth right now. On this side of the cross. Being a follower of Jesus gives us an identity that no power of darkness can ever steal from us.[bctt tweet=”Believing in Jesus doesn’t merely gain us a ticket into Heaven. It’s about the victory we have here on earth, too … right now-on this side of the cross. #identity #betrayal #rejection #MomentsofHope” username=”lori_schumaker”]
Cal Jernigan, my Pastor at Central Christian Church, once said, “You were not just saved. You were saved for a reason. You were not just rescued from the world, you were rescued for the world.”
So, if we were rescued for the world, do you think it was to live encumbered with a victim identity?
No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. -Romans 8:37(NLT)
We are not the
We are not stuck in the muddy pit of our offender’s sin. And friends, we are not wearing their sin as our label!
For I am not ashamed of this Good News about Christ. It is the power of God at work, saving everyone who believes—the Jew first and also the Gentile. This Good News tells us how God makes us right in his sight. This is accomplished from start to finish by faith. As the Scriptures say, “It is through faith that a righteous person has life.” -Romans 1:16-17
We are victors because our identity is in King Jesus.
He trumps all other sin and darkness. Washing the label of victim off us, He replaces it with an irrevocable one that no one can take away. A victorious label called …
Child of God
[bctt tweet=”We are victors because our identity is in King Jesus! #identity #betrayal #rejection #series #growthguide #MomentsofHope” username=”lori_schumaker”]
That is why we can take each whispered lie and cancel it out with Truth. When the enemy tells us we will never fulfill our purpose? We laugh in his face and say, “I am following my King and He will lead me to and through my purpose.”
When he whispers lies about our worth? We tell him to move on back because, “My Jesus, the King of the Universe, says I’m precious in His sight.”
And then, friends? We breathe deeply and abide.
We rest in the warm and loving, but safe and fierce protection of the One True King.
It is there we find a supernatural peace that rises above all else in the world … where betrayal has no sting.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” -John 15:5 (NIV)
Jesus, You are the King of Kings and the only One worthy of our praise. You created us as unique, wonderful, and in your image. You saved us for a reason. Lord, fill us with an understanding we cannot deny.
Let our identity as Your child seep into every corner and crevice of our hearts, souls, and minds so that betrayal loses its sting. Lord, I pray that we run to You and abide in You, resting peacefully in the encompassing knowledge that in You our identity is victorious. Convict us of our victory as we fulfill the purpose You have set before us. In Your precious and holy Name, I pray. Amen
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When People Hurt You: Rising Above the Emotional Pain of Rejection and Betrayal is a series that looks into the Word of God as a guide to not just surviving, but rising victoriously over hurt. Each week I address a new aspect of rejection and betrayal that serves to keep us stuck in the pain rather than moving forward to where we want to be. (If you missed a post, then you can get caught up HERE or click on an image below!)
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