7 Powerful Truths You Need to Help You Overcome Betrayal and Rejection

How do we get over betrayal and rejection? How do we let go of bitterness? Of the pain that left us feeling less than? Rejected? Unwanted?

Overcoming betrayal and rejection takes time, intentional choices, and walking hand in hand with Jesus. At some point in our lives, we all suffer the emotional pain of betrayal and rejection. It has the power to affect not only us, but all our relationships, and all the generations to come. Fighting for healing is worth it. Leaving a legacy of joy, peace, and hope is worth it.

How do we get over betrayal and rejection? How do we let go of bitterness? Of the pain that left us feeling less than? Rejected? Unwanted?
Overcoming betrayal and rejection takes time, intentional choices, and walking hand in hand with Jesus. Join me for this post and an entire series to help you overcome the betrayal or rejection you have experienced.

Betrayal and Rejection Have the Power to Divide, Dismantle, and Destroy

Divide, Dismantle, and Destroy. The devil uses the sin of our broken world to tear apart all things good. That includes your confidence in who you are in Christ, your relationships, and your overall mental health.

But through Christ, we have been given the tools to overcome his efforts for evil. We can take that power away from him and we can do more than endure the pain. We can get over betrayal and rejection victoriously and come out stronger in spirit and soul.

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Over the next several weeks we will explore truths that enable us to get over betrayal and rejection. When we commit to living out these truths, we keep moving forward in life. We get unstuck and we stop the enemy from dividing, dismantling, or destroying. You see, the enemy is the author of all lies and he is happy wielding those lies to make us stop living with joy, peace, and hope. He is happy to convince us to give up on our purpose and imprison us with the chains of bitterness.

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7 Truths That Will Help You Get Over Betrayal and Rejection

God equips us for healing. In the Scriptures, we find Truths that trump our feelings. Our feelings are an indicator of something amiss within us, but they do not always point us toward the truth within any given scenario. Scripture helps us determine which of our thoughts are truth and which are lies. Truth is reality and it leads to healing. Lies are false and lead to deeper mental health struggles.

1. The betrayal is in the hands of the betrayer.

The betrayal is not ours to own and it does not place guilt on our shoulders. The enemy wants us to believe it must be our fault and that we deserved the betrayal, but this is the enemy’s favorite way to use his masterful lies.

… He was a murderer from the beginning. He has always hated the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies.

John 8:44 (NLT)

2. The betrayal is not our identity.

When we are betrayed, we can find ourselves harboring feelings of unworthiness. We may hear the enemy whisper things such as, “You are not worth being respected” or “You were a fool.” People, however, do not betray based on the worth or level of awareness of those they betray. They choose to betray because of a brokenness deep inside themselves. An unredeemed sin in their hearts is acting out betrayal.

Jesus answered, “It is the one to whom I will give this piece of bread when I have dipped it in the dish.” Then, dipping the piece of bread, he gave it to Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot. As soon as Judas took the bread, Satan entered into him. 

-John 13:26-27

3. Life is not fair, and injustice happens. We must unconditionally accept that fact.

We cannot avoid situations of unfairness and injustice nor is it in our power to stop betrayal. It is only in our power to trust that God will walk us through betrayal.

When Adam sinned, sin entered the world. Adam’s sin brought death, so death spread to everyone, for everyone sinned.

Romans 5:12 NLT

4. Revenge will not fix the betrayal.

Revenge will only make our brokenness greater. We may never personally witness any type of justice, but our faith assures us that the Lord will take care of the matter.

“I will repay evil”; Wait [expectantly] for the Lord, and He will rescue and save you.

-Proverbs 20:22 AMP
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5. On the other side of this pain lies the opportunity to grow.

Simply being able to look betrayal in the eye and say, “I will grow from this”, defeats the betrayer’s intent.

“When a woman gives birth, she has a hard time, there’s no getting around it. But when the baby is born, there is joy in the birth. This new life in the world wipes out the memory of the pain. The sadness you have right now is similar to that pain, but the coming joy is also similar. When I see you again, you’ll be full of joy, and it will be a joy no one can rob from you. You’ll no longer be so full of questions.”

-John 16:21-23 MSG

6. You will trust again, love again, and, yes, find joy again.

The pain may suck the life right out of you right now. Maybe you can’t imagine ever feeling whole again. But God equips us to overcome with His power. He will stay with you as you battle. And He will bring you to a place of healing where you can once again trust, love, and experience joy once again.

I’m not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has so wondrously reached out for me. Friends, don’t get me wrong: By no means do I count myself an expert in all of this, but I’ve got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onward—to Jesus. I’m off and running, and I’m not turning back.

-Philippians 3:12-14 MSG

7. Betrayal and rejection are inevitable within the Church, but that does not mean betrayal is the church.

Betrayal and rejection happen everywhere. The Church does not get a reprieve from that. There are broken people within the Church and sin happens … betrayal happens. However, Jesus does not betray. He does not reject. And in a healthy church, we can find community, growth, and healing.

“Then Judas Iscariot, one of the twelve disciples, went to the leading priests and asked, “How much will you pay me to betray Jesus to you?” And they gave him thirty pieces of silver. From that time on, Judas began looking for an opportunity to betray Jesus.”

-Matthew 26: 14-16 NLT
How do we get over betrayal and rejection? How do we let go of bitterness? Of the pain that left us feeling less than? Rejected? Unwanted? Overcoming betrayal and rejection takes time, intentional choices, and walking hand in hand with Jesus. Join me for this post and an entire series to help you overcome the betrayal or rejection you have experienced.

I hope that this series will open your heart to the healing available after the brokenness and bitterness betrayal and rejection may have brought into your life. With an open heart, your chances of recognizing and bravely tackling what is holding you back increase drastically. And then you stop the cycle. You stop the cycle of destruction from affecting the lives of your children and your families for the generations to come.

Below is an additional prayer to print and keep close as you go to the Lord and battle with Him on your behalf!

A Prayer to Overcome Betrayal and Rejection

Dear Jesus, thank You for Your wisdom. You knew the broken heart I would suffer from the fallout of sin, and You lovingly gave me the tools and Truths in Your Word as a guide to face betrayal. I come before You and ask You to heal my heart and set me free from any captivity. Set me free from the lies I believe and the bitterness that has planted itself in my heart.

Lord, the enemy came to destroy me, but You have come to set me free so that I may have a rich and satisfying life (John 10:10). May I turn to You as my strength as I look betrayal in the eyes and defeat it and all the effects left in its wake. And Lord, please envelope me with your love and assurance as I go to battle.  Remind me I am made in Your image and that there is nothing more beautiful than that! In the Name above all names, I pray — the name of Jesus. Amen.

Join Me for This Series About Overcoming Betrayal and Rejection!

When People Hurt You: Rising Above the Emotional Pain of Rejection and Betrayal is a series that looks into the Word of God as a guide to not just surviving but rising victoriously over hurt. Each week I address a new aspect of rejection and betrayal that serves to keep us stuck in the pain rather than moving forward to where we want to be.

Also, I’ve created a Scripture Based Journal and Growth Guide that corresponds to each weekly devotional post allowing you to go deeper and make each lesson more meaningful.

This journal along with a set of printable Scripture Cards to give you hope is now in the Library of Hope! If you have already subscribed to our community, jump on over and grab your copy! If you haven’t subscribed, what are you waiting for? Just use the form below for your access to the Library of Hope and this journal!

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  1. Lori, these are such great thoughts! My husband and I have definitely experienced betrayal from people within the church, but I love how you said that this does not mean that betrayal IS the church. So powerful! I can take great comfort in knowing that our Lord was bruised, beaten, betrayed and rejected in order that we might experience true freedom and peace in Him. What a mighty God we serve! Looking forward to this wonderful series, and sending hugs your way!!! 🙂

    1. davejhiltaylor says:

      Thank you for sharing these valuable insights. Revenge and controlling are not the answers to overcome your fear.

  2. It’s so easy to receive and then to absorb and wear the negative messages that come with rejection. Thank you for powerful words that inspire women to live beyond betrayal and to take from Christ the identity of much-loved daughter!

  3. Emily Saxe | To Unearth says:

    Points 1 and 2 hit me hard!! What wisdom there is in knowing our identity is in Christ, not in our betrayer and not in our pain. Thank you for these words!

  4. Betrayal and rejection…wow!…what a weighty subject, Lori; one that’s definitely worthy of discussion. Thank you for sharing these 7 life giving truth that can help us all to experience freedom in Christ. (And thank you for the share. I pray it’s a blessing to many!)

  5. You nailed every point!! Absolute truth here! Thanks so much for this, Lori! <3 Sharing all over!

  6. God is so amazing & knows exactly what betrayal & rejection is all about through His son Jesus but also through mankind’s sinful nature.
    How wonderful that He still loves us & is relentless in His Love for us!

    I shared “Home sweet home” this week.

    Thank you Lori,

  7. Relationships can be so hard and its difficult to open yourself up at times. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. laurensparks.net

  8. Lori, SO GOOD!!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom & insight on this challenging topic! #2, 6 and 7 are my favorites, (although all equally as important). Learning to trust again, after betrayal and rejection is HARD! It takes the work of the Holy Spirit to break down those walls, and step out on faith again. I’m looking forward to this whole series!

    Ps- thanks for the feature today! 🙂

  9. Yes, we have all been hurt. What a great post on how to put that behind us. I especially like, “Betrayal and rejection is inevitable within the Church, but that does not mean betrayal is the church.” I have seen so many friends walk away from the church or even God over something someone said or did. Heck the church is full of sinner like me, what is why we need church.