How many of us live with it? How much of our lives does regret control?
For many of us, it’s far too much.
There’s the regret that serves as a simple reminder saying, “I made a mistake, but I learned from it and am stronger today.” But then there’s the other kind of regret.
The one that lives in the hallways of our mind, constantly infiltrating our thoughts and lives. It steals our joy, our contentment, and our fullness of life.
What is at the root of regret?
It’s something we did that we wish we didn’t. Unable to lay it aside, it festers within us. And ultimately, it is rooted in unforgiveness.
Last week, I wrote that understanding our worth is dependent upon knowing our Creator. It’s the same with forgiveness. To fully extend forgiveness to ourselves or another, we must fully understand the forgiveness and grace of the Father. What comes from Him and His unfailing love is only found by fully knowing Him.To fully extend forgiveness to ourselves or another, we must fully understand the forgiveness and grace of the Father. #regret #redemption Click To Tweet
For many years I lived with a great deal of regret. It weighed me down and took me along paths of which I never should have walked. My regret multiplied. I didn’t know my Creator well enough to grasp my worth, so I made choices that only hurt more.
I didn’t find freedom from regret until I began to peel away the layers of who God is and learn about the character and love of the One who created me with and for a purpose.
Freedom from regret began with Jesus.
I told my personal story of abortion not long ago here in this space. And after doing so, I received many emails and messages from women longing to be set free from regret. Many are living with depression, unmet potential, and a multitude of other mental and physical health issues.
I wish I could take that pain from you right this moment. I can’t, but that doesn’t mean you must continue to stay stuck. You can move forward one baby step at a time.
There’s just one condition. It’s knowing God – His character, His power, and His boundless-relentless-redemptive love for you.
There’s just no other place to start. When you finally grasp this truth, you’ll feel the fullness of His grace. Not that He ever withheld the grace, it’s just that until you know Him, you wear these blinders that keep you from seeing and sensing Him.
His grace is powerful. It’s better than any stain remover I’ve ever found! No matter how dirty the sin or how deep the stain embedded upon your heart, His forgiveness washes it clean and leaves it white as snow.No matter how dirty the sin or how deep the stain embedded upon your heart, God's forgiveness washes it clean and leaves it white as snow. #regret #redemption Click To Tweet
“Come now, let’s settle this,” says the Lord. “Though your sins are like scarlet, I will make them as white as snow. Though they are red like crimson, I will make them as white as wool.” -Isaiah 1:18 NLT
Next, there’s no easy way around leaving regret behind. It takes self-discipline and intentional actions. It includes counseling, self-help literature (you can find some of my favorite resources here), prayer, and a group to hold you accountable. I also believe there is an element of spiritual warfare that must be addressed. This is something I will expand upon in another post.
Today, I’m leaving you with a short video I created to remind you about God’s love and hope.
I referenced my personal story and I pray it will encourage you just a little more to believe that yes, it is possible. You can leave regret behind and live fully free!
I’ve written at length about several things we can do to fully learn about God’s love and our worth as a child of His. My heart has been to equip you with strategies like:
I’ve created things like an email course I call Longing for More than the World’s Reflection, an online Identity Factor quiz, and a whole series featuring stories from other brave women who have learned about the power of embracing God’s love. (You can find all my series here)