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Do I Really Need to Forgive Instead of Get Revenge?

Friends, this week’s topic is a heavy one. It’s about forgiveness and revenge.

You see, the world and our very own flesh glamorizes revenge. They tell us forgiveness isn’t really necessary and maybe not even possible.

They try convincing us to get revenge to feel better. That somehow getting revenge will heal our wounds and make the emotional hurt of betrayal and rejection disappear.

But usually, they fail to tell us that revenge has the power to dismantle our souls.

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The world and our very own flesh glamorize revenge. They tell us that to get revenge will heal our wounds and make the hurt disappear. But the truth is really quite the opposite. #forgiveness #revenge #godslove #betrayed #rejection #risingabove #overcome

When we are betrayed our flesh desires to remove the pain. It reacts by doing one of two things.

  1. Push it away, burying it deep inside with a hope of forgetting it ever happened.
  2. Or, fight back, lash out, and get revenge. It’s like that fight or flight response I talked about in my last post. Both provide momentary distractions from the pain.

But, even though both of those reactions are natural and created for an important reason, neither of those responses will heal the pain of betrayal or rejection.

He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly. -1 Peter 2:23

If we want to rise above the emotional pain of rejection and betrayal, our priority must be healing.

Without healing, we cannot move toward living out our purpose. We can’t experience a fullness of the fruit of our life efforts.

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I once listened to an interview with Cynthia Ruchti, author of Tattered and Mended.  In her book, she writes of how, as a society, we have found a level of comfort with the tattered edges of our brokenness. We are beginning to be transparent and loved in spite of them. However, we often find ourselves stuck in the brokenness instead of seeking the freedom offered through Christ.

In her interview, she discussed the need for an “atmosphere where healing can happen”. In medical scenarios, the proper atmosphere for healing must be present in order for healing to occur. The wound must be cleaned out leaving no room for infection to remain. Any hands touching the wound must remain clean and free from germs or the healing could may be sabotaged.

But friends, isn’t that what we need when the wound is deep in our hearts?

An atmosphere that promotes healing?

One where the infection is kept out?

Not one of bitterness and revenge.

Healing simply cannot happen in that atmosphere.

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The world and our very own flesh glamorize revenge. They tell us that to get revenge will heal our wounds and make the hurt disappear. But the truth is really quite the opposite. #forgiveness #revenge #godslove #betrayed #rejection #risingabove #overcome

And this is where I just have to get blunt …

Sweet friend, if you are holding onto dreams of revenge, I promise that bitterness is quietly growing behind those dreams. Bitterness starts as a root then grows throughout every portion of our being. It serves as a weed choking out all that is good.

Work at getting along with each other and with God. Otherwise you’ll never get so much as a glimpse of God. Make sure no one gets left out of God’s generosity. Keep a sharp eye out for weeds of bitter where can i buy tamoxifen online discontent. A thistle or two gone to seed can ruin a whole garden in no time. Watch out for the Esau syndrome: trading away God’s lifelong gift in order to satisfy a short-term appetite. You well know how Esau later regretted that impulsive act and wanted God’s blessing—but by then it was too late, tears or no tears. -Hebrews 12:14-17 MSG

We are incapable of serving both love and bitterness. We cannot expect to live lives of joy, peace, and love while feelings of revenge, bitterness, and unforgiveness fill our thoughts. Without harmony our emotions are torn and life becomes exhausting.

And we ultimately hurt the innocent bystanders. The ones who deserve our best.
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With that being said, may I have the privilege of speaking into your lives right now?

May I ask you to

… Let go of the bitterness?

… Give forgiveness?

and let love in?

I know it’s difficult. Letting go and letting in takes a lot of vulnerability. But I believe in you. I believe in your courage. And I know that loving and being loved is at the foundation of our deepest need.

When we let love in, we win.

We win against every scheme and trick of the enemy. We win because we followed Jesus as He walked us through the depths of betrayal to heights of victory.

Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all! Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. 

Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back, “says the LORD. Instead, “If your enemies are hungry, feed them.  If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.”Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good. Romans 12:14-21

Finally, because no effort is complete until we pray, let’s pray this prayer together.

The world and our very own flesh glamorize revenge. They tell us that to get revenge will heal our wounds and make the hurt disappear. But the truth is really quite the opposite. #forgiveness #revenge #godslove #betrayed #rejection #prayer #healing #hope

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  1. Thanks, Lori, for shining the light of the Gospel into the darkest corners of our hearts. The truth is that none of us deserves forgiveness, and, having received the gift, we are empowered to go forward in forgiveness, but it’s a choice we have to make–sometimes minute by minute!

    1. Amen, Michele! His power does give us the strength to forgive. And then, the gift of that obedience is freedom from the chains of bitterness. Thank you, friend, for joining me here ❤️

  2. Forgiveness is absolutely the best way to have peace. I found not only asking for help from God over and over to help, but also praying for the person I need to forgive helped change my attitude as well.

    1. I agree, Debbie. Praying for our offender is so important. We sometimes get forgetful and selfish in our prayers. Asking God to help us forgive is one part, but actually asking Him to help our offender with their brokenness changes our attitude almost immediately sometimes!!

      I appreciate you, too!! ❤️

  3. Thanks for sharing my post, Lori! You’re such a gracious host; I appreciate you.

    You share such important truths about forgiveness. Love this:
    “If we want to rise above the emotional pain of rejection and betrayal, our priority must be healing.”
    Healing is what we’re after. Thanks!

    1. You are so welcome, Lisa! I am always so blessed by your words and inspired by your witness!!!

      We want to heal – we ask God to heal us. But often our focus is on what was done to us and the bitterness we hold onto rather than healing. I pray these words connect with and encourage someone to step toward that healing ❤️

  4. I remember how difficult it was to not spread around how a friend had hurt me. I was so tempted to because I wanted people to know who she really was, but I’m so thankful the Spirit convicted me to not do that! In the end, she spread around lies about me, but because people knew my character it didn’t make that much of an impact. I’m so thankful for how God helps us to forgive!

    1. Oh, Emily, I feel your heart. We want to defend ourselves but often we need just be still and have faith in God as our defender. I have been there, too. It’s not easy!!!

  5. Rebecca Jones says:

    I love the verse about not retaliating, it is the normal response and even to the devil but God takes vengeance on him for us. I don’t have to prove I am right just be still and let Him fight for me Exodus 14:14, thanks Lori.

    1. Amen a million times over, Rebecca! It’s part of faith – trusting in God as our defender!

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    1. Thanks so much, Leslie!! It’s been a few years since a re-design so it’s exciting!!! I’m so glad you like it!! ❤️

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