If you are a Mom, you have faced fear. Even the fiercest of us unravel when a new life is placed in our arms and the reality of his or her utter dependence upon us sinks in. In that moment we want nothing more than to be bravery-in-the-flesh for this precious life God has given us.
And in that moment we secretly wonder how …
How to be brave when we already fear taking our eyes away from the rise and fall of our baby’s chest? And when we are terrified at the mere thought of leaving this little one in the backseat while we sit in the front? How will we be brave in the face of the million decisions marking the paths of our children’s lives?If you are a Mom, you have faced fear. How we face it matters to our children. #braveparenting #BraveMomsBraveKids #howtobebrave Click To Tweet
But out of the fierceness of our love, we commit to bravery. With determination, we go forward just one step at a time.
However, life happens.
Yes, the exhaustion. Have you ever noticed that exhaustion is a welcoming mat to fear? The more we allow exhaustion to take over our lives, the more we allow fear to roam in our hearts. It creeps in unnoticed and begins weaving an intricate web throughout our thought life.As moms, have you ever noticed that exhaustion is a welcoming mat to fear? The more we allow exhaustion to take over our lives, the more we allow fear to roam in our hearts. #BraveMomsBraveKids #hope #momentsofhope @leenienhuis Click To Tweet
So what do we do? Exhaustion is often an unavoidable part of motherhood and parenting out of fear isn’t what we want nor what our children need.
So, how does a weary Mom find bravery?
I have the privilege of being on Lee Niehaus’s launch team for her book Brave Moms, Brave Kids: A Battle Plan for Raising Heroes (Launching February 1, 2018). Friends, this is a book with insight, encouragement, and hands on strategies as to the why’s and how’s of doing this brave Momma thing.
It’s a book you need on your nightstand. One you need to read from cover to cover because it not only teaches, encourages, and inspires, but it points you right back to the source of all of our fear fighting.
“God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work” (2 Corinthians 9:8 NIV, emphasis Lee Nienhuis).Jesus is the answer to parenting bravely... Check out #BraveMomsBraveKids and enter to win a free copy! #MomentsofHope #howtobebrave #christianencouragement #brave @leenienhuis Click To Tweet
How to Be Brave
- Every good change in our lives starts with the act of recognition. We cannot change, nor even battle, that which we do not recognize. So when it comes to fear, we have to recognize where it is lurking in our lives. As I read Lee’s book, I was forced to take note of areas where I had once again subtly let fear take root. I had to ask myself the tough questions and then be completely honest in my answers. I asked,
Is fear lurking in
masked within insecurities?
avoidance of healthy confrontation?
going along with the world’s standards?
The asking and answering wasn’t pleasant. Admitting areas of weakness is often so difficult, especially when it’s an area where we think we have been nailing it! But that’s exactly where I found myself as I worked my way through Brave Moms, Brave Kids. Humbling for sure!
2. Once we humble ourselves, ask the hard questions, and call fear out for what it is and what it is doing, we can then fight it.
I love the battle plan Lee gives in Brave Moms, Brave Kids. Her book is broken into three parts. The second part is where we find the battle plan with the acronym BRAVE. What better way to remember the steps, right?
BelieveUnbelief is a forfeiture of power that belongs to us, and there is incomparably great power available to those who know and believe their God. @Lee Nienhuis #BraveMomsBraveKids #hope #howtobebrave Click To Tweet
ReflectReflection is the antithesis of distracted and indifferent; it leans forward and takes notes. @leenienhuis #BraveMomsBraveKids #bookgiveaway #hope #howtobebrave Click To Tweet
Ask ForgivenessToday is the day to ask the Lord for forgiveness and to ask your child for forgiveness. @LeeNienhuis #BraveMomsBraveKids #hope #howtobebrave Click To Tweet
Vigilant PrayerWe must simply choose to stand up again, to war through prayer. @leenienhuis #BraveMomsBraveKids #hope #howtobebrave Click To Tweet
Equip ThemWe need to have handed them courage and spoken words of belief over them. @leenienhuis #BraveMomsBraveKids #hope #howtobebrave Click To Tweet
Friends, this framework is rock solid! It is grounded in Biblical truth and without these 5 steps, we just won’t live fearless lives. And we won’t pass on a legacy of bravery to our children.