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When Life Is Hard and Marriage Hurts {Rising Above Unhappy Times}

Honestly, the memories are still fresh.

They’ve long passed and healed, yet they’ve left scars.  Not scars that remind me of pain, but scars forever reminding me of the power and hope of a God who saves.

 

When Life is Hard and Marriage Hurts - Rising Above the Unhappy Times by Lori Schumaker for Crystal Twaddell - Marriage Matters Series

Life was upside down. Our once chaotic, yet predictably peaceful existence as a family of four had disappeared in a moment.

We had stepped into the world of international adoption and fallen deeply in love with a little girl God called a Schumaker long before we’d ever seen her face. We didn’t know it, but our little Schumaker had suffered the unimaginable and the trauma and neglect had taken its toll on her mind and body.

Classes. Books. Counselors. Doctors. We did it all in preparation, but none of it touched the depths of the battle we were about to fight.

Malnutrition, PTSD, RAD, Marfans, PANS, PANDAS, Scoliosis, Strabismus.

Raging that consumed most of the day.

And months of sleepless nights blurring and overwhelming an exhausted mind.

“I’m sorry. This little girl is the most complicated we have worked with. We don’t know the answers. You have to understand, healing may never come,” said doctor after doctor.

To which I cried out,

“God, this wasn’t what we signed up for.”

As we ached with love for this child God had gifted us, we grieved for her wholeness and for ours.

And we coped in the only way each of us knew buy nolvadex united states how.

I think we all do that.

We develop our individual coping mechanisms to deal with unhappy times. Part of that is our unique wiring and another part is a byproduct of our upbringing.

It makes rising above the unhappy times hard to do. And it’s why so many marriages fall apart when tragedy strikes. It’s often why marriage hurts.

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To finish reading our personal story of rising above the unhappy times, follow me over here to my friend, Crystal Twaddell’s blog. She’s a precious hope-giver who relentlessly pursues the heart of God and in so doing, blesses me abundantly.  I’m honored to join her as she shares hope and encourages others in their commitment to marriage.

Rising Above Unhappy Times - Lori Schumaker for Crystal Twaddell - Marriage Matters

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8 Comments

  1. I can’t wait to hop on over and read this. Thank you for sharing your heart and being real! Love you, friend!

    1. Thanks so much, sweet friend! Love you back!

  2. Great things to learn, even for singles like me. 🙂

  3. Lori, your story and transparency are so hope-filled! We all need to know it’s to be expected that marriage is not always going to be a smooth ride, and it’s ok to admit the stuggles are just plain hard. What makes all the difference is inviting God in and yielding to His perfect widsom and working through us and in us so our marriage can be a reflection of His glory. This is what I see in your story, and it is inspiring friend! Thankful to have you!

    1. Thank you so much, Crystal! I pray God used it to touch and encourage just the right hearts!!!

  4. Lori, I love this encouragement. Marriage does matter and it is worth fighting for. Allowing Jesus to become the center of a marriage brings so much hope and happiness. Thank you for sharing your story with Thankful Thursdays.

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