To the Girl With a Worn out and Weary Self-Worth
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This week, I get to bring you the fierce girl herself, Shannon Geurin from Fiercely His! This lady writes about being fierce for all the things of God. The enemy wants to steal away what belongs to us, friends, and Shannon rises up alongside us to fight against the lies he uses to do so. Join her today for the truth about seeing your self-worth and boosting your self esteem.Join the #SummerSizzle #BlogHopSeries! 9 Christian Writers share their #VeryBestPosts! #hope Click To Tweet
I was voluntarily trapped inside the shame box, hiding and hoping that no one would find me. I was bad, unworthy and unlovable. Being inside the shame box was safe because I wasn’t exposed. When I was exposed, it was torture.
I walked towards the restaurant, every step feeling like I was wading through quick sand. My husband opened the door for me as he always does, but I motioned for him to go ahead of me. Wanting to hide, I walked behind him through the foyer into the crowded and busy restaurant. Immediately I felt heads turning in judgement. I heard voices saying, “She’s the one!”, “Get her out of here!” “I don’t want her near me!” I hung my head in shame wondering why in the world I had agreed to go out to eat. Every deserved dart came at me, threatening to cripple me.
Everywhere I felt the same struggles; walking through Target, strolling the mall, shopping for groceries. Everyone there throwing insults my way; telling me I was no good; questioning the kind of mother I was; wondering how my husband was still married to me.
Although the shame box was safe, I needed out.
Everyday I had to physically force myself into some kind of normal. I had to physically drag myself out of bed and help my daughters get ready for school. I didn’t have a choice.
Everyday I had to fight.
I tried opening my bible but it felt like I was reading a book written in a foreign language. I didn’t have the strength to re-learn it and I didn’t feel I was worthy anyway.
That was a long time ago, and I’m happy to say things have changed dramatically for me. Although there are times when shame tries to creep back in, I am happy and whole. I know my worth. I know my value. And I know I am loved.
To the girl struggling to see her self-worth:
I get you girl, and you aren’t alone.
Because of past mistakes or past hurts, you can’t seem to get one foot in front of the other; and when you do, you’re dragging.
Oh how I get you.
I know how it feels to stand in front of the mirror, not being able to put your foundation on because of the tears running down your face.
Self-worth: The Fight.
Please listen to me: There is something out there literally wanting to destroy you and me. He slithers around inside our heads shouting profanities at us. Hating everything about us, he is fighting to bring us down. And it isn’t a petty little playground fight. This is legit. This is the fight of all fights.The fight of all fights is in front of you! It's not a petty playground fight! #SummerSizzle #BlogHopSeries #identity #selfworth #chosenandworthy Click To Tweet
Can I be a little (a lot) bit bold with you?
How dare we allow this to happen?! Right? How dare we allow something like this to grab hold of us and tell us who we are and who we are not.
I mean, we are daughters of the most high King for goodness sakes!?
We have a heavenly Father who is so in love with us He gave His Son as a sacrifice so you and I would never have to feel this way!
God made YOU. He FORMED you while you were in your momma’s belly. (Psalm 139:13-14) You were made in HIS image. So, just knowing this alone means our worth is not in ourselves but in God, because He made us!
And here lies the issue: knowing it and believing it are two very different things. So, how do we BELIEVE? How do we believe and know that we have worth; that we are worthy?So how do we BELIEVE we are worthy? #selfworth #identity #SummerSizzle #BlogHopSeries Click To Tweet
It’s an every day fight. We have to fight to know and believe it because the devil is going to do everything he can to bring us down. So let’s punch him in the face! Wanna?
He (Satan) is fighting and we MUST FIGHT BACK. Ephesians 6:10-18
Self-worth: The Lies vs The Truth.
I’m sure you’re a great momma and wife, but they aren’t where your worth is found.
Whether you get 123 likes or 4 likes on your latest Facebook picture that isn’t where your worth is found.
Whether you’re a teacher, musician or politician, that’s not where your worth is found.
Your worth is found in Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ alone. Period.
Self-worth: The Value.
You’re valuable! So valuable that you were worth God sacrificing His only Son. And he may be the only person that will ever really and truly love you unconditionally. Let this truth-bomb soak in; because when it does, it will be the only opinion that really matters.Jesus Christ is the only person that will ever really love you unconditionally. #selfworth #identity #SummerSizzle #chosenandworthy Click To Tweet
Shannon is fun-loving and authentic. She loves big and fierce, and at the top of that love list is Jesus, her husband John and her two daughters, Alex and Averee. She’s a woman who has been rescued and restored and knows how to fight. Shannon believes every woman has a calling and she has a passion to see women everywhere rise up into who God has designed them to be. Although a book is in her future, you can currently read her blog and her story here! You can also connect with her on Twitter | Facebook | Instagram
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Beautiful “truth bomb,” Shannon.
And thanks, Lori, for detonating it here in our midst, today!
Thank you, Michele! I agree – sometimes we need a fresh reminder of the truth!
Thank you for sharing your story Shannon. I think we all get worn out and lose the truth of who we are in Christ at times. Thank you for the link up Lori. Blessings to you.
Yes – it’s so important to remember who, and Whose, we are. Thank you for joining us!
So true. This is such a good word for today… especially as we begin swim suit season.
That’s so true, Erin – a great point! Thank you for joining us!
Shannon, I relate to your past struggle. God has set me free from shame and given me a new identity. Praising him today for releasing me from the chains of my past!
What an encouragement – thank you so much, Sarah! Rejoicing with you!
Love this fierce attitude: “How dare we allow something like this to grab hold of us and tell us who we are and who we are not. I mean, we are daughters of the most high King for goodness sakes!?” Amen!
Yes! I love this, too. Sometimes we need to put the enemy right back in his place with the Truth of God! Thanks for being here today!
Shame is so insidious and loves to sneak into our life and take over. But like you say, how dare it think it can find a home when we are the daughters of the Most High. I was reading a book about shame and it brought out a good point. Shame always isolates us from others, creating barriers and making us think no one will accept us or love us. God, though is the opposite. He lives in community and wants us in community. Helping and being with others. Sharing our troubles, joys, and hurts. And when we do this, shame is driven out into the cold.
I love the point you share from the book you read. It’s so true, we have to think back to what we know to be true from God’s Word. Thank you for sharing that!
I loved this post. I am working on a series about Guilt and have found our self worth is a huge component of feeling guilty. I had no idea I needed so much work in this area. You post just fuels my fire. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story, Shannon, and your reminders of whose we are! So glad you’re using what you’ve been through to minister to others!
So true – it’s about Whose we are! Thank you, Julie!
This topic was an issue I battled most of my life and recently in the past couple years God has been bringing me out of. Thanks for speaking truth in love, friends. Women need it today as much as they ever have.
We, women, sure do need this message now as much as ever! Thank you, Meghan!
So blessed to read your story Shanon! He is the only one who defines our worth.
Yes – what a powerful testimony she has!
So, so true that Jesus is the only one to love us unconditionally! We can’t even understand how deep his love is, it is deep! Thanks for hosting!
Yes! It’s so true! The only relationship I can begin to compare it to is the love for my husband and children – but it doesn’t even compare to God’s love for us! Thank you, Sherry!
I think we all come to a point where we struggle with self-esteem. But it’s true. We need to keep fighting and look at us the way Christ does. With so much love.
Yes – with so much love! Thank you, Lux!
Such a great article. Love you Shannon and Lori!!
Thank you, Sarah! Love you too!
Your story is just beginning, Shannon. God is going to use all of this in BIG ways. The devil is definitely going to get punched! 🙂 Thank you for having the courage to stand up to him and shed light on the power and love of our Lord, and who we are in Him!
Amen, RebeccaLynn! Praise God for Shannon’s courage and strength!