Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.
The memories seem to stay with me. The words penetrating my heart, eating at my soul. Sometimes they were just more than I could bear and I needed an escape. Just outside our door was a red picnic table and, in the summer months, that picnic table became that place of solace.
It was there I would wrestle with the feeling of not good enough.
I desperately attempted to fix things … to make them happy. Maybe if I could just say or do the right thing, they wouldn’t be angry anymore. They would be happy with each other -With me. If only the words didn’t hurt so badly and if only I could be good enough to make them really love me.
Are you like me? Do you wrestle with ‘not good enough’?
Each of our stories may look a little different, but the outcome of family dysfunction often leaves us in a common place. A place that says, in no uncertain terms, “I’ll never be good enough.”
We allow the label placed upon us by the brokenness of others to have more weight than the identity given to us by our Heavenly Father.
We allow the enemy to use the brokenness of people in our lives to aid him in what he is so profoundly adept.
The telling of lies.
The truth is, ‘good enough’ will never fix those around us, nor will it bring them to love us the way we desire. And it doesn’t define us.
The ugly words are NOT our labels.
They will NEVER be our labels and that is a truth Satan wants to remain secret.
So, he works diligently to keep us believing the lies.
He pressed in on me as a little girl sitting at the red picnic table so long ago and, in complete honesty, I can tell you he continues to press in even today.
But today I recognize truth and I have a deep relationship with the Author of Truth. You see, God’s truth dispels the lies of the enemy every single time.[bctt tweet=”Today I recognize truth.God’s truth dispels the lies of the enemy every single time.”]
That, my friends, is good news!
Our Creator, the God of the Universe, has given us a different label. A label of love and beauty.
In His Word, He says…
What His Word does not say is that we are defined by the unhealthy actions and lifestyles of those around us.
Remember? Their words do not label us. We are only labeled by the words of the One who created us.
The One Who lovingly reached out for us each time our hearts were broken. He was there holding us up.
He was there saying, “Come to Me…believe ME. I AM and they are not.”
God longs to see us step out from the shadows of an identity derived from dysfunction. He wants us to step away from the brokenness of others. He wants us to receive His love and recognize who we are in Him. I know firsthand, though, it is not easy. It takes conscious actions and thoughts. It takes determination.
Here are steps I have learned along the way.
Feel the emotions. Grieve. Burying emotions only cause them to grow. Don’t get stuck in them.
Repent of believing the lies of the enemy instead of the truth of God. We may not think it is a sin to believe these lies, but God’s Word clearly tells us to walk in Truth. Believing lies is literally acting in direct disobedience to God.
Confess the sin of unrealistic expectations. Release the feeling of having the “right” to perfect endings.
Pray in the powerful name of Jesus to be freed from these restraining chains of brokenness.
Read scripture that reminds us how wonderfully made we are and stay in the Word. Pour His truth into the wounds.
Establish and maintain boundaries. Relentlessly!
Pray for and forgive those who have brought pain.
Live each day consciously remembering and committing to believe what God’s Word does
Sweet friends, our past is our past. A terrible memory is simply that…a memory.
Not a self-definition.
Not a future.
We have been masterfully crafted by a God of wonders to do unique things. Those things will never be accomplished living under the label of the past.[bctt tweet=”We’ve been masterfully crafted by a God of wonders to do unique things.”]
Now, would you join me in stepping away from that picnic table where an unsure little girl sat wrestling with a label of lies?
Step away and embrace an adventurous journey rooted in the forever truth of Christ.
A journey designed by our Heavenly Father and filled with love, peace, freedom, and unspeakable joy!
I would love it if you would head over to my friend and best-selling author, Susan B. Mead’s website. My post today is being featured on her blog in honor of her son, Kyle, and the release of her book, Dance with Jesus from Grief to Grace. Kyle would have been 28 years old this month and to celebrate him, she is hosting the Dance with Jesus Birthday Beach Bash and Blog Tour. Her encouragement, testimony, and love has tremendously blessed me. I truly recommend her book for anyone struggling with grief. Here’s a link to purchase it!
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