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Week 4 – Unconditional Acceptance (with a fun 17-Scripture printable set of cards)
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Friends, this topic has been swirling about in my brain! It’s a heavy topic, but one that I see often glamorized by society. It’s a common theme in music, in movies and on television. They tell us revenge is sweet, but they usually fail to tell us that revenge has the power to dismantle our souls.
When we are betrayed our flesh desires the removal of the pain. It reacts by doing one of two things. Push it away, burying it deep inside with a hope of forgetting it ever happened. Or, fight back, lash out, and seek revenge. It’s like that fight or flight response I talked about in my last post. Both provide momentary distractions from the pain.
But can I gently look into your eyes right now and tell you that neither of those responses will make it permanently go away? Neither of those responses will heal that ache in your heart?
Our priority in our response to the hurt of betrayal must be healing. Without healing, we cannot move toward living out our purpose. We will never experience fullness of the fruit of our life efforts.
Recently I listened to an interview of Cynthia Ruchti, author of Tattered and Mended. Her book talks about the fact that as a society we have gotten more comfortable with the tattered edges of our brokenness. We are beginning to be transparent with them and loved in spite of them, however, we often get stuck in the brokenness instead of seeking the freedom offered through Christ.
In her interview, she talked about the need for an “atmosphere where healing can happen”. She used a medical atmosphere as an example. If there is a wound, the proper atmosphere needs to be created for healing to occur. The wound must be cleaned out and no room for infection remain. Any hands that touch the wound must be clean and free from germs or the healing could be sabotaged.
Isn’t that what we need when the wound is deep in our hearts?
We need an atmosphere that promotes healing.
An atmosphere where the infection is kept out.
Not an atmosphere of bitterness and revenge.
Sweet friend, if you are holding onto dreams of revenge, I promise that bitterness is quietly growing behind those dreams. Bitterness starts as a root and grows throughout every portion of our being. It’s like a weed that chokes out all that is good.
Healing cannot happen in that atmosphere.
Work at getting along with each other and with God. Otherwise you’ll never get so much as a glimpse of God. Make sure no one gets left out of God’s generosity. Keep a sharp eye out for weeds of bitter discontent. A thistle or two gone to seed can ruin a whole garden in no time. Watch out for the Esau syndrome: trading away God’s lifelong gift in order to satisfy a short-term appetite. You well know how Esau later regretted that impulsive act and wanted God’s blessing—but by then it was too late, tears or no tears. Hebrews 12:14-17 MSG
We are incapable of serving both love and bitterness. We cannot expect to live lives of joy, peace, and love while feelings of revenge, bitterness, and unforgiveness fill our thoughts. Without harmony our emotions are torn and life becomes exhausting. And we ultimately hurt the innocent bystanders. The ones who deserve our best.We can't expect to live lives of joy,peace, &love while feelings of revenge,bitterness,& unforgiveness fill our thoughts #healing Click To Tweet
May I have the privilege of speaking into your lives right now?
And may I ask you to
… Let go of the bitterness?
… Give forgiveness?
… Let love in?
I know it’s difficult. I know the letting go and letting in takes a lot of vulnerability. But I believe in you. I believe in your courage. And I know that loving and being loved is at the foundation of your deepest need.
I know that when you let love in, you win. You win against every scheme and trick of the enemy. You win because you followed Jesus, and He walked you to victory over the depths of the deepest of betrayals.
This week, I have two of Cynthia Ruchti’s books I’d like to give to one lucky winner! Tattered and Mended: The Art of Healing the Soul, and Ragged Hope: Surviving the Fallout of Other People’s Choices. I just know these books will speak to your soul! You will be able to earn up to 10 entries through the Rafflecopter below. The giveaway will run one week from Monday, November 9 – Monday, November 16.
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